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May 14, 2016 - No Comments!

The Curse of Facebook

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The Curse of Facebook

During the year 2015, the only thing that I did with full dedication was cycling around Islamabad, its beautiful hills and the surroundings. Mostly solo and at times with groups. A part from that and after much thought and reflection, I have come to this conclusion that most of my time was sucked using Facebook. I Couldn't make anything out of using Facebook, it seem to me that this tools just waste your time. Yes I am being extremely blunt and may be negative about it. I do admit that many are making a living out of it and its a good tool of communication but comes with a huge price tag of ultimate time wastage.

My personal realization is that its not giving me anything good as of now. I was addicted to a virtual word. Something so unreal and fake. Being injected with shots of dopamine for every 5 seconds, leading most of us to another disease called narcissism. In November I publicly announced about quitting facebook.

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I planned to stay way from Facebook forcefully for as long as one YEAR, the same goes with Instagram too. Later after few days I went a step ahead and deactivated my Facebook account. For how long? I have no idea, chances are might not come back even after a year, lets see what I am missing out.

After a month of not using both of these platforms, I felt a great change in my lifestyle, I am more focused, I waste less time online, actually I only use the computer when I need to get some important work done, since there is nothing to browse or scroll up and down to an over whelming amount of useless info daily and highlights of other people lives which has nothing of value to offer, my productivity has sky rocketed. I FELT ABSOLUTELY GREAT.

Back in 2013 Douglas Rushkoff wrote this article for CNN “Why I’m quitting Facebook” below is an excerpt from his article which I not only relate but endorse it and may be you would relate to it too.

Facebook does not exist to help us make friends, but to turn our network of connections, brand preferences and activities over time — our “social graphs” — into money for others.

We Facebook users have been building a treasure lode of big data that government and corporate researchers have been mining to predict and influence what we buy and for whom we vote. We have been handing over to them vast quantities of information about ourselves and our friends, loved ones and acquaintances. With this information, Facebook and the “big data” research firms purchasing their data predict still more things about us — from our future product purchases or sexual orientation to our likelihood for civil disobedience or even terrorism.

The true end users of Facebook are the marketers who want to reach and influence us. They are Facebook’s paying customers; we are the product. And we are its workers. The countless hours that we — and the young, particularly — spend on our profiles are the unpaid labor on which Facebook justifies its stock valuation.”

In the end I will like to conclude my battle against the "Curse of Facebook" in the very words of Douglas Rushkoff

“Maybe in doing (quitting facebook) so I’ll help people remember that Facebook is not the Internet. It’s just one website, and it comes with a price.”

Update 2018

I am till off of Facebook, I to be very honest I haven't missed much, in fact have regain my focus when it comes to projects that requires online access. Anyway I'm here to share this image which is 101% true.

May 7, 2016 - No Comments!

The Hardest Part

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The Hardest Part

It's easy to say that the hard part is standing up and starting, sure it is and often for most of us, but today I really want to say is that the hard part is the time it takes once we get moving.

Its showing up every single hour of the day, every single day of the week and month, its showing up in the middle. When no one is watching, listening, when the zeal of the start has worn off. When its actually about showing up and doing the work and getting things done.

Its about showing up when you earlier thought that this is it and later found out that no, its actually this, not that.

The hard part is that you keep going no matter what.

The hard part is to stay put when the outcome of hustle is very small and it doesn't really feel incremental at all. Its about knowing when to go full gas and when to stop, take a step back and relax, reflect, regain, focus and go on with it again.

And to know that its all about the process, the experiment, and that no one is going to teach you any better but this very journey that you have embarked yourself on, with all your honesty. The hard part is about knowing that no teacher, no e-book, tutorial will give you such real life insights but this sacred journey.

The hard part is to know that its never all shiny most of the days, its like pushing hard and hard even if you don't feel like. Because that's what separates the best from the rest.

 Its the realization that there is no escape from the boring, from the monotonous hours to put into the hard zone of work. Its about not being shying away from the tough.

The internet, the media makes it looks so easy peasy, because no one really talks about how they went through all these grinding moments while they reach at the end of the journey, and even if they talk about it, it looks like a piece of cake, a lovely adventure like a reality TV show.

Loving the hard part is going to make all the difference, loving the hard part is the actual road less traveled. If you want to make it you will be in for the hard in one way or the other, so love it, cherish it make the best of it and shine through like a star.

Fear, discomfort and uncertainty is all part of the package, they are till there even when things look fun and play. They are there like a gentle reminders and the hard part here is to stand firm take a deep breath and do it anyway.